SELF ESTEEM; HOW TO CHALLENGE THE NEGATIVITY

"Getting past the negatives and realizing that you an awesome person will allow you to move on and improve your life and lifestyle."

When you're learning about something new, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer amount of relevant information available. Understanding how to focus on the central points can help and improved how to manage yourself in this type of situation.

How do you stay calm, composed and maintain self-esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may consider to guide you towards self-improvement. Here is a familiar game with a relative fact on how you can overcome negativity.

First, Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you won't even remember. Don't let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1: Negative Work Environment

There is a saying that goes 'dog eat dog', beware of this theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self-esteem. Competition helps you develop and grow, it is difficult to avoid because it can be anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in healthy competition.

Dart Pin #2: Other People's Behavior

There is a list of people you need to be careful of when dealing with them.  Bulldozers, Brown Nosers, Gossipmongers, Whiners, Backstabbers, Snipers, people walking wounded, Controllers, Naggers, Complainers, Exploders, Patronizers,  all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self-esteem, as well as to your self-improvement scheme. The earliest you can identify such people, the better for you to maintain a good atmosphere to thrive

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment

You can't be a green bug on a brownfield. Without the involvement of innovations and development the word might stand still, changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think which transcend to how we developed.  Changes sometimes may make life difficult for a while, it may cause stress or fear but it will help us find ways to improve ourselves. Change is a constant and continuous, we must be susceptible to it.

Dart Pin #4: Past Experience

It's okay to cry and say ouch when we experience pain. But don't let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

 "Oh, God, I struggle with low self-esteem all the time! I think everyone does. I have so much wrong with me, it's unbelievable!" Angelina Jolie

You are not alone when facing a problem or challenges. Always remember somewhere there is someone that has or had a similar problem and the will or have overcome them. 

Dart Pin #5: Negative World View

Look at what you are looking at. Don't wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations. When you focus your thought on the good side of every situation, you will have the power to overcome the negative side of it. This gives you total control on how to manage the possible outcome and circumstances.

Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioral traits are said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn't mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people's experiences, so you will never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO! Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self-esteem and drawing lines for self-improvement is a choice, no rule or a talent. God would not come down from heaven and tell you, George! you may now have the permission to build self-esteem and improve yourself.

In life, it's hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battlefield, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bulletproof. Life is an option that gives us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bulletproof armor ideally means self-change. The kind of change comes from within. Voluntarily Armor or Self Change involves three things, that is our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.

In conclusion, building self-esteem will eventually lead to self-improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It is like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self-esteem, we take control of our mission, values, and discipline. Self-esteem brings about self-improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self-esteem? You need to four BE,  Be positive! Be Contented, Be Happy and Be Appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self-esteem, your starter guide to self-improvement. Truthfully, the only difference between you and Self-esteem experts is time. If you'll invest a little more time in reading, you'll be that much nearer to expert status when it comes to Self-esteem.

There's a lot to understand about Self esteem. We were able to provide you with some of the facts above, but there is still plenty more to write about in subsequent articles.